Re: my rant for today!!!!
Result are difficult Jag when it is bad news. It takes time to process all that you hear, adjust to your new reality, and understand what you are facing. I remember taking Mom for testing and then going back to get the results. Even with my experience in LTC, dealing with patients and families, it ranks up there with one of the most difficult things I have every done. But I needed to do that for Mom... and for me. That is where you start coming to grips with what you are facing. With your BIL's history related to your Mom.... he needed the reality. He will be the primary caregiver. He and your sister have to come to terms and deal with their mindset before they can share it with others.
Stay in contact with both of them. Be supportive. But remember that you have yourself and your mother to take care of first...