Re: Caring for boyfriend advice please help!!!!
Worrying about what he would tell people is an excuse. DOn't fall for it. No man is worth being beaten over. He needs anger management classes. Telling you that you are part of his problem isn't the way a therapist of any value would work. He is using you as an excuse for his problems and the fact that he refuses to deal with them.
You are an enabler by staying with him and letting continue to verbally abuse you and belittle you. Your best bet would be to leave him and make a clean break. Leave so that you could be respected again as a human being. Every time you take care of him it is feeding his "illness" and you are doing exactly what he wants....