Re: stillbirth at 27 weeks when to try again
If that were me I would have told off that "friend" a long time ago. Nobody I knew treated me so insensitively. What could she be thinking? Stay away from her and do not throw her a shower. I am apalled!
As for the kidney, that is a personal decision. A good friend of mine did the same thing for her brother and he is doing well now. She got pregnant about a year later and now has a 2 year old and is pregnant with her second. She hasn't had any major health problems and had very good pregnancies.
Look, its one thing to not know what to say and another to be completely rude, out of line and downright mean. She wishes she could switch places? I am not a violent person but I would have slapped her. She sounds like a bully. You don't need friends like that.
Surround yourself with supportive people and stop acting like your fine. Reach out to people and let them know when you need to talk. I tell people all the time what happened to me. Them being upset is nothing compared to what I went through. Don't feel you have to protect others. Your the one who went through trauma.
Even 4 years later when asked how many kids I have I say "one living" and one with the angels. People are like oh i am sorry. After the loss, I stayed away from all baby showers, tried not to directly look at any pregnant women and avoided all baby related things pretty much until I was pregnant again myself. If people can't understand that then something is wrong with them not you.