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ibake&pray · 02-19-2009, 08:44 AM

Bless you CAJ!

ISn't funny that your sisters are so quick to talk and so fast to run away when you call them out? You are doing the right thing for your mother, don't ever doubt it. You know it, they know it-they really do-they just won't admit it..and your mother knows it also. That's why she put you in charge.

What you could do is have all three of your sister over for dinner or just a family get together as a fun time. Then just bring out the calendar and say, I understand that you have been talking to Mom on the phone and that you have all volunteered to have Mom come and stay with you. Here's the calendar. What week are you going to have her come and stay with you. Sign up or shut up.There will be no monetary compensation for this. If you aren't going to take Mom for a week, I suggest that you quit encouraging her to try and leave the nursing home. She is where she needs to be. She is getting the type and quality of care that you cannot provide for her. She has round the clock nursing supervision hands on staff. Three balanced meals and snacks every day. Organized activites. Clean clothes, she is bathed and her hair is taken care of as are her toe nails and fingernails. Unless you can prove to me that you can also do this, stuff it.

That should take care of that problem from your sisters. And I know that you can do this. But do it to all of them at the same time so that you will only have to do it once and so that they all hear the same thing at the same time. And then you will be done with it. You are a strong woman and you need to do it for your own peace of mind and for the safety of your mother...and besides that you know they won't volunteer to take her. They only want to make her feel that she's more special to them and that they can do this better. It's always the same...

Grab hold of the towel..we'll keep the other end tight and won't let go...you are doing the best you can for your mom and that is the most important thing in the world.....

02-19-2009, 08:44 AM	#2
ibake&pray Senior Veteran (female) Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Oak Hill, VA Posts: 3,509	Re: Family budding in with treatment Bless you CAJ! ISn't funny that your sisters are so quick to talk and so fast to run away when you call them out? You are doing the right thing for your mother, don't ever doubt it. You know it, they know it-they really do-they just won't admit it..and your mother knows it also. That's why she put you in charge. What you could do is have all three of your sister over for dinner or just a family get together as a fun time. Then just bring out the calendar and say, I understand that you have been talking to Mom on the phone and that you have all volunteered to have Mom come and stay with you. Here's the calendar. What week are you going to have her come and stay with you. Sign up or shut up.There will be no monetary compensation for this. If you aren't going to take Mom for a week, I suggest that you quit encouraging her to try and leave the nursing home. She is where she needs to be. She is getting the type and quality of care that you cannot provide for her. She has round the clock nursing supervision hands on staff. Three balanced meals and snacks every day. Organized activites. Clean clothes, she is bathed and her hair is taken care of as are her toe nails and fingernails. Unless you can prove to me that you can also do this, stuff it. That should take care of that problem from your sisters. And I know that you can do this. But do it to all of them at the same time so that you will only have to do it once and so that they all hear the same thing at the same time. And then you will be done with it. You are a strong woman and you need to do it for your own peace of mind and for the safety of your mother...and besides that you know they won't volunteer to take her. They only want to make her feel that she's more special to them and that they can do this better. It's always the same... Grab hold of the towel..we'll keep the other end tight and won't let go...you are doing the best you can for your mom and that is the most important thing in the world.....