Re: dealing with a bipolar son
About what age was your son when you started noticing things change w/ him? I would definitely go with the counseling and maybe halt a bit on medication beings the side effects might not be good in the long run, but that is not saying don't allow the medication, just try the counseling first.
Have you had a chance with one on one and to see what he really feels and thinks? Hang in there, its hard, but remember one thing, "my grandmother always told me, remember your the mom and let him know that you are doing everything that is in his best interest for him."