harvey1982

Hi I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. We're both 27. I might be totally wrong but I’ve been wondering for a while whether he may be autistic. He has real difficulty in expressing or describing his emotions. Sometimes it seems impossible for him. I used to think he was just your ‘typical’ guy who doesn’t feel comfortable taking about feelings. But I realised a long time ago it’s more than that. He says he doesn’t understand most emotions and just cant find the words. I know he cares about me but sometimes he comes across as very cold. When I tell him he seems genuinely shocked. He finds it incredibly difficult to express himself a lot of the time and has trouble reading body language, especially if subtle. Goes completely over his head. If I try to explain certain gestures he still doesn’t understand. When we’ve had arguments he doesn’t seem to understand why its happened or why I’m upset. He cares. He just doesn’t get it. And he can’t put himself in someone else’s shoes. So if say a friend is upset about something and I ask him how he thinks they feel. He’ll say ‘I don’t know. I’m not in that situation so I don’t know’. He just can’t imagine how they feel. His difficulties have resulted in awful arguments as he is very bright so I used to think he just didn’t care. But I started to wonder if there’s another reason to explain. If he was, it should have been picked up years ago right? But his dyslexia wasn’t picked up until he was 19. Please can someone help?