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MoriGhan · 12-02-2009, 02:24 PM

Hi I'm new here but have participated in another forum .

Most of my "problems" came about by being raised by a Co_N mother ( my parents had a codepenedent relationship and it was controlled by my N mother)

My coping mechanisms revolved around being overly independent, and i never became a compensatory codependent. Somewhat Like you 00lady00.

I grew up with being mistrustful of others but not completely so. I would TRUST those who mirrored my family, so obviously my needs never were met. I also had some avoidant tendencies. When things got difficult I would withdraw.

Because i had a hard time bonding in healthy relationships Narcissism ( or self centredness) was sometimes construed as part of my makeup.Usually another flawed person would point the finger.

I think it's important to realize that not being able to maintain relationships, and having a sense of ego doesn't point to N-ism. It just means we haven"t yet understood what our coping style is and haven't learned how to change it.

Any disorder can be in varying degrees, so self labeling or labelling others can be quite defeating.

12-02-2009, 02:24 PM	#10
MoriGhan Junior Member (female) Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 13	Re: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Hi I'm new here but have participated in another forum . Most of my "problems" came about by being raised by a Co_N mother ( my parents had a codepenedent relationship and it was controlled by my N mother) My coping mechanisms revolved around being overly independent, and i never became a compensatory codependent. Somewhat Like you 00lady00. I grew up with being mistrustful of others but not completely so. I would TRUST those who mirrored my family, so obviously my needs never were met. I also had some avoidant tendencies. When things got difficult I would withdraw. Because i had a hard time bonding in healthy relationships Narcissism ( or self centredness) was sometimes construed as part of my makeup.Usually another flawed person would point the finger. I think it's important to realize that not being able to maintain relationships, and having a sense of ego doesn't point to N-ism. It just means we haven"t yet understood what our coping style is and haven't learned how to change it. Any disorder can be in varying degrees, so self labeling or labelling others can be quite defeating.