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Old 01-03-2010, 04:18 PM   #1
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When and how to tell MIL we will be placing her

My husband and I are going to be looking into maybe placing my MIL into a home. It's not something that we want to do but we are really starting to realize that she would probably be better off. We are just trying to get our heads (and emotions) around this decision.

My question is: Once we decide we will be placing her, a) Do we tell my MIL and b) if so, when do we tell her? Her short term memory is completely gone so she most probably won't remember shortly after telling her, but I know that the emotions this will evoke will stay and may affect her emotionally and mentally. Do we start preparing her now or do we wait until just before we move her? Just sending out her Christmas cards sent her downhill so we are worried how us telling her will affect her.

Thanks, PB