Re: When and how to tell MIL we will be placing her
Martha gave you all the same advice i was going to (thanks, Martha, you stole my thunder... Kidding.) It was spot-on advice.
I think God forgives us lying in this case. It's the Alzheimer's / Dementia Forgiveness clause, and I"m sure it's somewhere in The new or old Testament... somewhere. Say WHATEVER it takes to make it as easy on her and you as possible.
Best of luck. Keep in touch. K