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Old 01-15-2010, 06:24 AM   #2
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Re: Help with a friend who cuts

Hello lizoza,

People cut to relief pain but its also because they cant control what is happening around them with there life ( someone may have died and they couldn't stop it or Parents break up) things like that. When the level of emotional pressure becomes too high it acts as a safety valve - a way of relieving the tension.

Other reasons could be:
Cutting makes the blood take away the bad feelings
Pain can make you feel more alive when feeling numb or dead inside
Punishing oneself in response to feelings of shame or guilt
When it's too difficult to talk to anyone, it's a form of communication about unhappiness and a way of acknowledging the need for help

Really it depends on the person and you will only find out if she wants to tell you.

Abit about depression incase your not sure.

Depression is often an illness. If you're depressed, the usual feelings of sadness that we all experience temporarily remain for weeks, months and years. They can be so intense that daily life is affected. You canít work normally, you donít want to be with your family and friends, and you stop enjoying the things you usually do.
If you're depressed, you may feel worthless, hopeless and constantly tired. In most cases, if you have milder depression, you can probably carry on but will find everyday tasks difficult. If you have severe depression, you may find your feelings so unbearable that you start thinking about suicide.
About one in 10 of us develops some form of depression in our lives, and one in 50 has severe depression. It affects not only those with depression, but also their families and friends.
The good news is that with the right treatment and support, most depressed people make a full recovery. Itís important to seek help from your GP if you think you may be depressed.

symptoms
Psychological symptoms include:
Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.
Low self-esteem.
Tearfulness.
Feelings of guilt.
Feeling irritable and intolerant of others.
Lack of motivation and less interest, and difficulty in making decisions.
Lack of enjoyment.
Suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming someone else.
Feeling anxious or worried.
Reduced sex drive.
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Physical symptoms
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Physical symptoms, which include:
Slowed movement or speech.
Change in appetite or weight (usually decreased, but sometimes increased).
Constipation.
Unexplained aches and pains.
Lack of energy or lack of interest in sex.
Changes to the menstrual cycle.
Disturbed sleep patterns (for example, problems getting off to sleep or waking in the early hours of the morning).

I think what you are doing is brilliant. you really are a true friend to her and she is lucky to have you. So dont give up But in the end she does need to see a doctor because medication will help her, I know how she feels about not wanting to go to the doctors. If she still feels like she doesn't want to go. why don't you see if she would go with you and do it together.

I hope this was of some help.

Dan.