yeah.. thanks for the input!
for my dad i think its just a survival mode still from his youth. he grew up extremely poor with a large family and sometimes didnt know the next time he would eat. now he doesnt have to worry about that but he has never really acknowledged that i think. he still is in that survival mode. he's making some progress though. we've gotten him to go on some family walks and he loves when we make our healthy dinners for him.
my mom has been doing better too. she has been watching what she eats a little closer and sometimes will play tennis on the wii with us.
but both are still completely hooked on their caffiene/soda.
oh well. baby steps.