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Old 03-29-2011, 03:26 AM   #4
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Re: What to do about my boyfriend's family...particularly his mother!

Your boyfriend knows his mother..give up totally on hoping for some sort of apology, you will never get it. I know it is hard, but you must remember that everything that comes out of her mouth is all about her. She is full of rage and poison and it just sprays around on anything in the vicinity. It sounds like her daughter is a willing pupil and is becoming like her. She does not know and cares less that she is treading on your feelings. By all means keep away from her, but asking your BF to choose is a very dangerous step, both in the short- and long-term. Let him stay in contact with her, it doesn't have to be the both of you. Having said that, you will need clear evidence that he can distance himself in a healthy way, eg moving in with you and limiting his mother's visits to "invitation only" or "hell freezing over" LOL. Keep yourself from getting tangled up in her stuff, it has nothing to do with you, just maintain a dignified silence. If she realises that you are the same no matter what she says or does, it will annoy her big time (always a bonus). Hang in there, these people are pains, but they are everywhere. Cheers, Sera.