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Old 05-06-2011, 04:58 PM   #1
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feel alienated by my family

My father died unexpectedly 2 days ago. We are all still in shock and my younger sister who dad lived with has taken control of funeral arrangements. We are all dealing with his death as best we can but I am starting to feel alienated. Yesterday she lost her temper with me and threw me out of her house when I mentioned my son wanted to be involved with the funeral mass. Today she phoned me with date of the funeral and proceeded to tell me my partner was ''barred''. I split with my partner last year and when my family found out a few weeks ago that we had got back together they made their feelings clear that they wanted nothing more to do with me as long as i was with him. He had a drink problem which he is now dealing with, he has been sober for 6 months. My sister told me dad had hated him and he would not have wanted him at his funeral and that if he turned up he would be asked to leave. She also told me that my exhusband(father of my three children) and his family(who all got on well with my dad) were not welcome. she then called my son and said actually his dad could go but my partner was still not welcome. To be honest myself and my partner have discussed it and he will stay away if that is what I want, I just want dad laid to his final resting place peacefully. I just cant help feeling that noone else in the family has been told their partner is not welcome. My sister never liked my partner and whilst I dont want to cause any undue upset to anyone, he has been my greatest support at this time.....I can't sleep and have a constant headache , I am fine one minute and the next sobbing. My sister has just sent facebook invites to Dad's funeral and has sent messages to MY friends requesting their presence.....I simply feel so alienated from my family and dont know which way to turn next.