Re: New to all this/ still waiting to see a specialist.
your facial/neck and back muscles are clearly out of alignment, and that is causing the pain and pressure. I was exactly in the same boat before I got my splint. Therefore, from what you have described, I think your teeth as such are fine so I wouldn't worry about that.
In my unprofessional opinion, I think this is what you need to do:
1. Get the doc's appt ASAP (looks like you have done that).
2. Have the CT or MRI done on your joints to see if there is any problem with the joint itself or if it's mostly muscular;
3. If the muscular cause is ruled out, get into the splint ASAP. There are many types of splints, my doctor used the most simple flat plane hard mandibular splint and it's working. Some doctors prefer to start the repositioning splints right away. It is really up to you and the physician.
Remember: the goal is to separate the teeth to let your muscles relax.
3. See if it provides relief. My was evident the same day, as my tight as a rock muscles on the right side of the jaw relaxed. It's been about 3 weeks and I am NOT symptom free, but am doing MUCH better.
4. Hopefully you feel better; if no improvement is seen withon a month, you should discuss this with your doc.
5. In the menatime, you can ask for flexeril (muscle relaxer) and some painkillers (vicodin?). None of them quite helped my jaw pain, but vicodin kind of took the endge out.
I feel for you and wish you the best of luck with your therapy. I also have a 22-months daughter and a husband and I work full time (I am the only one working in the family), so I know how you feel. Please be strong and keep us updated!