Originally Posted by boodle2
My Sister and I have been caring for our Mother who has pulmonary fibrosis, this is a terrible disease! But our biggest problem is our 18 year old nephew, he is so emotionally abusive to our 83 year old Mother and there is nothing we can do about it because she refuses to kick him out! He screams at her when she won't give him money and he will scream until she gives it to him. He also brings strangers into her house, drinks and smokes dope there all the time and she still refuses to kick him out, and if we say anything she gets upset with us. If anyone has any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated!!
This is elder abuse and it needs to be reported and you can do it yourselves annomously to the police or to an elder abuse hotline found in your phone book or on the internet. She is really afraid of your nephew and doesn't know how to stop him. She is an enabler and is co-dependent relationship with her grandson. It's pretty common for the person being abused to defend and make excuses for the person who is abusing them and to even blame themselves for the abuse. Do your mom and yourselves a favor to report him before something bad happens to her and yourselves so you don't regret it later !