Re: Trying to cope w/my husband's ADHD
Out of brotherly love for you, may I suggest changing your search criteria. The demands being made on you are typical of those of a cruel dictator. The dictator is playing on your devoted love for him. He knows he can torture you for as long as he likes. You are not going leave him.
Think about changing your search to "how can I get out from under this monster, move on and eventually find a man that deserves a woman of my caliber."
IMHO, it is there you will find your solution to the happy life you so richly deserve.