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Old 09-17-2011, 10:26 AM   #2
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Re: my fiancee was molested as a child. still having issues.

Nikki, I mean this with great kindness when I say that you doing things to your man that he has specifically says he has major issues and trauma because of is not going to cure him. Stop touching him where you know it brings up issues. If he doesn't want oral sex, knowing his history just let him be. You cannot "make him normal". He is damaged, and rightfully so. Be loving and compassionate and stop trying to force issues he has such problems with. You are adding to his hurt, I feel, by thinking you can fix this. I wish he would try therapy again. best wishes to you, Sue