I am right there with you girl. It hurts when they say it. The same things keep going through my head. I have 3 kids I have to think about. My husband wants to wait until after the first of the year to split up. If we are going to split up, I don't think I want to stay together like this. We have one child together, but the other 2 think of him as their dad. It hurts so much and nothing I say can make it better. So, do I start finding some place to live? I am like you, I moved from a different state to be with him. I left my family and friends that I had all my life. Now, 7 years later, I have my own friends here and I love his family to death. If you need someone in the same situation feel free to talk to me any time.