I am so happy to find out I was not alone!
I ended up cutting off all contacts with my parents 5 years ago, I also ended up moving a timezone and 2 provinces away. I gave up trying to have a relationship with my narcisstic father and enabling mother and it does help not to waste energy on that endeavour. Although I am still struggling to have some semblance of self, self-esteem and... happiness.
Keep up the good fight, for your sakes; you all deserve peace