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Old 03-08-2012, 10:48 PM   #4
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Re: Living in a Care Facility

Hopefully she is not just sitting in her room alone all day. She goes to meals and activities. Care staff comes by to check on her, change her, and give her medications. Other residents wander in. She is probably in and out of her room more than you know. She should be laid down or a position change several times a day as well. Yes there are time she is in her room alone but that is not her daily routine.

One thing you can do is to go in and ask to follow her daily routine. That way you will know where she is. The other thing you can do is to request that she be brought into a commons area for part of the day.

In Mom's unit there are some that are rarely in their rooms except to sleep like my Mom. She gets up, dressed, goes to breakfast and only goes back to her room when she goes to bed. Others ask to be in their room rarely, wanting to leave the safety of those four walls. We would consider it intolerable to stay in one room all day but the confusion of a commons area can be distressing to an Alzheimer's patient. They may enjoy some solitude. The best thing you can do is to go follow her daily routine and ask the staff to help you understand all that she is participating in.

Most of all you have to trust the care facility and the care givers that they are doing what is best for Mom and making sure she gets what she needs.

Love, deb