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Old 05-14-2012, 11:10 AM   #5
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Re: Update on Mom

Sorry that Sister thinks Mom has no dementia? So she is not on the same page with you? That is trouble. Maybe she is naive. Maybe she thinks she spent the money and will be used for Mom in her house.
It is too bad to realize that your sister is not as level-headed as you.
So she seems to have problem with serious responsibility. Medication is a serious issue so it is better you do it instead of her.

Whatever it is, for now if she does not admit Mom has dementia, she would not be able to do it at your level. Did you show her any diagnosis paper and tell her what the doctor says? Send her a book about dementia...

About the bed, well, if she was able to go out, Mom probably should try the bed. If the bed is not fit, then return it, if it is fit at home, keep it. Don't have to return it just because Mom has not tried yet...
For my FIL, we bought a bed out of state first before we moved him. We know what his size is so we had twin XL bed. As long as you know what Mom wants.

Maybe there should be some middle ground. Try to convince her the dementia problem...
At least Mom is at the sister's, not yours.
Hope things will improve, if not get worse...

Hugs,
Nina