Originally Posted by Scarsofthepast
Also i was wondering if u knew the answer to this question: how can someone who hasnt self harmed before know and understand how i feel?
While it may be hard to reallize there are other ways that people cope that are just as damaging as self-harm but not as obvious. I say this as I have become a cutting self-harmer in my 40's but as I begin to work with my pdoc/therapist I realize that previously I had chosen an nearly as dangerous coping mechanism of self harm through the use of sexual intercourse with strangers to deal with the emotions and issues that I felt I couldn't face. For me sometimes it was just about having some semblance of control in my life and now with cutting when everthing it overwhelming and I feel as if I am drowning again that sense of control comes back.