Re: Could my daughter have aspergers?
She sounds a whole lot like my daughter with Asperger's who is now 15. If you pursue and get a diagnosis, I doubt much would be done because, like my daughter, yours gets good grades, isn't a behavior problem, etc.
As for "aging" with Asperger's, yes, it has become more difficult as her friends go through puberty and develop more complex thinking, interest in boys and dating, romance, etc. My daughter is left still wanting a "playmate." My daughter knows she is different and speaks almost daily about how much she hates having Asperger's. She is getting help from a therapist, but I think it's mainly something she will negotiate over time.
I've "heard" that things improve in the late teens, early 20's. I hope so.
Keep us posted, and good luck!