Re: Rant: Useless paid help
Deb got a point. You didn't say if the family has any anger or emotional issues. But you cannot force the family together by saying you want to take care of Dad at home. Some members may want to consider a nursing home.
A big family has so many members and some have different thinkings. The adult kids of Dad are the ones that have more power over what they want to do for Dad. The grandkids may have different thoughts but they can still help out because the parents ask them to do so.
You can only collect so many family members who are for this option and set up the teamwork, but you cannot force some members who may not choose this option.
Hope you will find some solution. Don't force everyone to be on board. Just get enough people to help out.