Re: 2 year old displaying some signs of autistic spectrum disorders
Hi, you left me a message a couple of months ago but I was unable to answer at the time as computer troubles.You asked after reading my post if your daughter sounds like my son. In some areas he does although to get a diagnosis of autism they need to meet certain criteria and although your daughter is having difficulties and not behaving as you would expect from a typical child she does have some skills such as good pretend play which is often an area of difficulty for autistic children.
My son has no pretend play and has to have play modelled by an adult which he then copies. However he will repeat this over and over until an adult adds more.
My son also flaps hands, toe walks and when anxious will open and close his hands.
He does not have any bowel problems although my daughter who has aspergers syndrome has and would go a month without going.She would be hysterical when she had to go and took lots of medication. It is very common for autistic children to suffer from bowel problems.
My son also has repetitive behaviours and like your daughter will run the same cicuit around the jungle gym. His repetitive behaviours occur everyday but particularly when in a new environment.
He has severe meltdowns every day where he will scream, kick,throw things, bite,hit and head bang. Often they occur so suddenly and we do not know why. He does however get distresssed if he is told no,cannot achieve something,something goes wrong,he has to wait,we change plans without preparing him,in noisy or busy environments.
He also has difficulties with his motor skills and balance which is also very common with autistic kids. You do not mention if your daughter has these difficulties.
My son gives good eye contact when he initiates interaction but not when we try to interact with him. He also chats to us but rarely responds when we try to talk to him.Its very one sided.He cannot hold a conversation.
I think you also need to look back to when she was a toddler, were there any signs then.
Did she give eye contact, respond when you called her name, take an interest in things you were looking at, did she look if you pointed to something, how did she respond to noise,lights,smells,touch etc Did she understand what you said?
I spent years observing my son, looking at his behaviours, wondering is this normal, would a child with autism do that. I would also watch other peoples children trying to compare. I nearly drove myself mad, I just needed an answer and eventually I got it, and am beginning to except it although cannot pretend to know everything about autism and still have the odd wobble now.
However my one regret is that I spent so long observing him that I forgot to enjoy him. He never changed. I did.
Whether your daughter has autism or not you have to trust your own instincts. You know some areas of her development are not as they should be. The only true way of getting the answers is by having her assessed. Perhaps you are already going down that path.It is important as you want to get her the specialist support which is so important.
But just remember to enjoy her. If you would like to ask any further questions always happy to help.
All the best