Originally Posted by Belly864
Isn't there a maxim out there about knowing that there are things you can change, things you can't, and how you have to know the difference? It seems to me that thinking one has control over something when one really doesn't would lead to more depression and chaos, and then thinking that everything is your fault would be really harmful in the long run.
I agree with you on this. I prefer to read self-help books that offer practical advice rather than wishful thinking. Bad things do happen to us that's beyond our control. Sometimes the most we can do is try to not become bogged down and immersed in the hardships and setbacks we face. I think blaming ourselves for all of our problems is just as bad as refusing to accept responsibility for our own behavior.