When you say she doesnt want to see a pysch. do you mean by herself or with you? (big dif.)
When you say she doesnt want to compromise or resolve issues, can you be more specific?
I find that when I fight with someone I feel as though I am trying, they feel as though they are trying, and sometimes there is just a disconnect in perceptions about who is actually trying harder to resolve the issues.
There is a book called the 5 types of Love Lanugages or something like this that kind of explains why two people in love still cant understand each other and get their needs met, no matter how hard they try.
I have just been through it.
Sorry you have too.