Re: I love my mom -- should I tell her?
First I want to tell you what a huge heart you have. You say you love your mom - that's the main reason you should tell her. I wish I knew you so I could give you a big hug. I am the mother of a girl in the exact situation (at the exact same age) as you. She didn't tell me. I recently started a business and work long hours. She was so worried about telling me because she didn't want to hurt me. She didn't want to burden me, or hurt me.
My heart aches for you.
She eventually did tell me. I would have given up my business and all my happiness in the world to take away the pain and confusion that surrounded my daughter, as I'm sure your mom would do.
You post here because you want help. Your mom will be disappointed, she will cry, she will feel helpless. It's all a normal thing to go through in order to help you overcome the pain you are feeling. She needs to be aware so she can do everything in her power to help you.
My daughter said the day she told me (and her school guidance counselor) she was scared and sad, but she immediately felt a little better. She felt like a weight had been lifted off her shoulders because she no longer needed to carry this by herself. She is currently receiving help. She's still scared, she's still sad, she still feels she let us down. She also knows it's just temporary. She is on the road to recovery.
I beg you to reach out to your mom. As a mother, there is nothing I wouldn't do to ensure my daughters safety, both mentally and physically. I'm sure your mom will feel the same way.
You are strong enough and brave enough. I believe in you.