Re: My 87-year-old dad has recently been diagnosed with vascular dementia.
I'm having some of the same questions go through my mind with my Mom. She is 91 years old and living in a "senior" apartment complex that does her meals & has someone clean her apartment. My brother calls her twice a day to remind her to take her medications. I have to do her laundry now & she has to be told to take a bath. She doesn't change her clothes on a daily basis, meaning she puts the same thing on each day unless I tell her not to. I'm trying to figure out what kind of help she needs. It is becoming more and more taxing on myself especially. She isn't going to like other people doing things for her.
Good luck with your situation. Mom seems to forget more and more every week!