Re: Is he lying or cheating?
The password thing is a big red flag. I cannot say he is but it would make me suspicious. I have to say that when I was married to my first husband, I did have an affair and the way you describe how he is acting is exactly how I acted when I had the affair. I was very angry...I wanted to be with the other man, I did not want to be married anymore and in my mind the husband was in the way of my happiness. He may feel justified since you had an affair...he may have not ever forgiven you. It takes a very strong person to forgive an affair. It's hard.
My posts are just my opinion only and are not of a professional nature.