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Old 01-23-2013, 04:36 PM   #1
WhiteLily0590 WhiteLily0590 is offline
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Boyfriend and Masturbation

Hi All,

So, I've been dating my boyfriend for just under 7 months. We've hit a few serious rough patches, but we've been very open and forthcoming with each other and we made it through them.

I know men are visual, and so porn is a good turn on and aid for masturbation. Please note that in the 7 months we've been together he's only went solo 3 or 4 times. But recently I had an OB-GYN appointment and found out I wont be able to have sex for nearly two weeks. He has masturbated once since then using porn and it drives me crazy...and not in a good way.

I understand why he's using porn, and I agree that its his right to do what he pleases, when he pleases, and that includes masturbating to porn. But it makes me feel awful, like I'm not good enough, or that maybe he doesn't find me attractive anymore. He has tried consoling me and telling me that he still loves me and thinks I'm beautiful, and more than great in bed, but I cant help feeling the way I do. He gets nearly everything he wants in the bedroom so I don't understand what he's getting from the porn that I cant give to him. It just makes me feel awful and sometimes angry. I don't want to feel that way about him masturbating and watching porn, but I cant help myself. I told him I don't have a problem with the masturbating, its the porn that's the problem. Why cant he think about me and him? Some fantasy about the two of us? I know he's not cheating when he watches porn, but I just want to understand my feelings about this, because it could start to cause problems in the relationship.

Any ideas? Hope to get some feedback soon.

-WhiteLily0590