Counseling for yourself so you can see that a marriage with abuse no matter what form of abuse is not a marriage one stays in. Marriage counseling coudl also help as it will give you both someone to talk to without a bias. You could then learn how to talk to your spouse without offending her. But with abuse you dont need to put up with that. No one does.
And yes it is believable that it happens to guys as well as women. Just like it were a woman being abused the advice is the same LEAVE.
DS 13 yr
DS 8 yr (3+ yrs ttc)
TTC #3 since 01/02