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I so glad you have managed to sort his out and move on, I think you may be right about everyman using porn every now and again, and certinaly finding it a turn on.
It's so good you can talk openly about things together and this is, (in my experince) is certinaly the basis of a close loving relationship. I have been with my partner for 18 years, since I was 18 and this has worked well for us.
Wishing you all the best with your relationship, any realtionship worth keeping is worth fighting hard for. Xx