Re: To have surgery or not
I had a complete full thickness cuff tear (supra- and infraspinatus) and contusion on the humeral head from an injury when I was 53. That was 4 years ago. Since then I've had 5 surgeries, and will have the 6th in a month - from cuff repair to lysis of adhesions to bicep tenodesis to distal clavicle resection to hemiarthroplasty to total shoulder replacement to reverse replacement.
Anyway, the cuff repair is very painful and the recovery is long and difficult. Most people do fine after 6 months and don't have problems. The people who end up on these forums are the ones who do have complications and issues. The first few days are the most difficult, then it does get easier, but still, it is an ordeal overall. Is it worth it? For most people yes. If you fall within the 5% with poor results, not so good.
Best to you!