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Old 02-09-2013, 11:51 PM   #2
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Re: Need Help! Trust Issues Abound...

It is strange that although we know what we need in a partner, we continue to try to fix our primary relationship with a parent by continually choosing partners who bring up the same old feelings that we grew up with. Your mother let you down and put you last in her priorities, and your partners seem to be doing the same. This one, for example is treating you like a backup companion to have when all the more interesting people are not available. You know this; a normal outgoing person can still include her significant other in her friendships. You feel second best, just as you did as a child. This is, at the moment, your default status. Your work is to nurture and value yourself as a person worthy of being "number one" to a partner, and not be trying to continually repair the damage your mother did you by revisiting it with your partners. Whether it is through reading or therapy, look into this so that you can move on into healthy adult relationships. Sera