Re: 95 yr old woman, Day 3 of energy surge
It sounds like she also has dementia (memory loss). Dementia doesn't mean it is only memory loss. It includes cognition problem and behavior issues. She is confused. My late FIL who had severe Alzheimer's had the similar issue with dying. But he started with thinking the hospital wanted to kill him and ended up with thinking he needed to die having nothing to do. Later, the doctor gave him anti-depressant and anti-psychotic drugs. He moved to a memory unit and enjoyed the staff and forgot about it.
It is possible that your Mom is confused about the timing and everything so she is confused about her death too. Hospice is a good idea. It will ensure that she live comfortably but she will not go for aggressive treatments. Also distraction is a good
strategy. Don't argue with her but validate her thoughts. Comfort her with simple answers. Don't explain logic to her. She is in her own reality, not yours.
Also, for a demented person, she may have aspirational pneumonia or swallowing issue because she may have trouble eating. Usually at the end stage of dementia, eating is an issue. Incontinence is part of it too. Please consider hospice.
Last edited by ninamarc; 02-21-2013 at 12:48 PM.