Oh Booboo, I'm so sorry to hear that.
I agree with you. I was supposed to be able to bowl last June. It has been over a year and I still haven't been able to pick up my bowling ball. I still have some residule tenderness from the last cortizone shot too.
I know that the ulnar shortening helped some, but didn't solve my original problem completely. My second surgery helped address it more.
I forget about my wrist most of the times. I still have times when something triggers the 'zing' of pain though. I was at the shoulder doc recently and he was doing an assessment. He had me put my arms out in front of me and he pushed down on my arms. Boy was that a reminder that my wrist will never fully be normal again.
I'm wondering what else you have going on with your wrist. Have you considered getting another opinion from a different hand specialist to see if something was missed?
As of yesterday, I'm now the proud owner of a splint on my left wrist. I've never had problems with the left one before. I didn't injur it either. I just started in with pain similar to the right and it has gradually gotten worse. I went to the clinic and they put me in a splint and told me to wear if for a month and to check back if it was still sore. That was until I pointed out I'd had right wrist problems. Now, he said if it hurts after 2 weeds in the splint that I should seek out my hand specialist.