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I have been married for 27 years. Ten years ago I had a relationship with a married man. For 5 months we met in secret we kissed and necked but we never had sexual intercourse. We did try one time, but he could not get an erection. Herein lies my problem. My husband found out about it and he does not believe that a man and woman can meet as long as we did and not have sex. He said that if I could find just one person who thought it was possible he would forgive me. So I am asking for your thoughts on this. I love my husband very much and have tried to make up to him for my wrongdoing. Its been a long time and we need to get over this. Please help.
ok guys hold on cause here goes the rest of the story....At year 10 of this marriage I did have TWO affairs. He forgave me for these and we had a wonderful enviable marriage.
At age 33 I started going to college and that is when I met this man. We had a class together and he also started working out at the same gym I did. I knew him for awhile before anything out of place happened. Then I cound myself very attracted to him. For a long time I did not tell my husband the truth about anything concerning ?.This man used me for whatever reason. It wasn't sex. It may have started out as that But he lost it , couldn't get it up. Don't know if it was me or him? We always met in public places. Be it divine intervention or whatever the sex never happened.
I completely understand my husband not trusting me. But it has been 10 years since this incident and believe me they haven't been pretty. I deserved the terrible treatment he has given me. I have not seen or spoken to this man. Shouldn't there be an end to it somewhere. A convicted murderer has an end to his sentence, even if it be death. It would have probably been easier for me if I had told him that we had had sex.That is the problem; he thinks I am lying to him about having sex. Should I have told him what he wanted to hear? It is a crazy situation. I'm bout out of my mind.
So in a situation like this is it possible for us to not have had sex ? That seems to be what it all boils down to.
Last edited by kitkat363; 12-04-2003 at 03:27 PM.