I'm crying as I read this. To think that someone would do such a thing to something so innocent and unable to defend itself is unfathomable to me. This especially sickens me because people like this little ones parents reproduce and I may never be able to have my own children. It makes you ask God why he dealt this hand to this little girl.
I wish you the best of luck. It sounds like you are doing an awesome job and I hope it'll only get better for you.
Happy Holidays and an AWESOME New Year
I want to say that you and your dh are wonderful to adopt! I'm adopted and could not imagine loving any other person like i love my parents. (well my dh and ds of course )
It sounds like your dd is starting to feel secure and what you are doing may seem small but in her world it's HUGE...she's probably realizing that you and your dh are kind and caring and love her with your whole heart!
I'm sickened to hear what her abusers must have done to her
But, Thank goodness she's finally out of that situation and is with you and your dh!
I wish you and your family a happy holiday and a wonderful healthy new year!
Keep us updated on her sleeping situation..it will get better
IUI's-4 to conceive Troy July 25/05
m/c *angel* 10 weeks July/04
IUI's-2 for bfp Sept 27/07
Just wanted to give you guys an update. My baby went to the doctor. She's malnurished to the point that she's back on formula. She is eatting foods now with out too much trouble, she even tells us when she wants something now. She had 4 shot because shes so far behind we gotta get her caught up now. She also has slow speech development. Otherwise, all bruises are now gone. ALL GONE. She has color in her face again. She's 23lbs. Wearing size 3 diapers and 12 month clothes that are starting to get a bit small. She's in a size 5 baby shoe.
She's still gets up a few times a night(2-3) but she crys like a normal baby now. She no longer does the owee thing at night, and she reaches right out for me. We had a wonderful christmas for her. She got lots of toys that she really loves including a new baby that she now takes everywhere with her. She is calling me "ommie" now. And Dad is now "Poppa-dadda". She's going through some testing phases to see what she can get away with now. I love it because it tells me she's comfortable enough to push the limits.
She's such a sweet little girl. Love's to give kisses now, and you should see the way she folds her little hands together and trys to prey at dinner time. It's the sweetest thing I've ever seen. She loves to help clean the house now too. She was scared to death of the mean old vac. so I started holding her when I'd vac. and eventually she wanted to help push it. Now she'll let me put her down and she'll follow behind it pushin it. Her favorite cleaning is the dusting. She has her own cleaning rag now and helps me dust everything.
She says several new words now. If someone sneezes she will say ess-u(Bless-you). She says Uve-you(love-you). Baby, cuppie, baba, thank-you, walk, side(outside), doggie, birdie, nose, eyes, bath, toes. She's really becoming a chatter box. She was only saying three or four words before we got her. She loves peek-a-boo and this little piggy games. But her favorite is when mom hides behind the couch. She'll sneek around the corner far enough to see me then take off running to poppa giggling. It's too cute.
As far as the adoption goes. All the papers are now filed. We have a case number and everything. Now they should start getting the father to sign his papers. Her doctor gave her a Happy Adoption gift. It's a little blue whale.
The only real problems she still has is nutrtional and the aggression when she gets mad and tired. She is getting better. When she hits herself I just say no hit mommies baby, love mommies baby and she'll stop for a sec like she's thinking about it then she'll kiss herself. I am trying to get her into a behavior health program for infants to see if we can work through those things. As far as the nutrition goes, she just needs a bit more time for her body to heal. I will continue to update you guys as we progress. Thanks again for all the warm and wonderful posts.
Sounds like she is doing great!! I am thankful for your little girl to have found you. I believe some people really don't understand what blessing thay have. I also believe that you do understand and you are doing great job taking care of her keep it up. Happy holidays!!
The progress she is making brought me to tears when I read your post. The fact that she is starting to test the limits with you and DH is a very good sign. Keep up the great work! You may be blessed to have this baby, but she is certainly blessed to have you as well!
Hi guys just another quik update. Our Baby is doing really well. She takes the formula dr put her on really well. We're doing 1/2 2% milk and 1/2 enfamil formula. She's eatting 3 meals a day along with snacks. And She's gaining weight now. She's sleeping way better and adjusting really well. The agression is way better and she's talking up a storm now.
Parental rights will be terminated on the 18th of this month. We have our home study done on the 17th. Things are starting to pull together nicely. Anyway I have alot to do today but just wanted to update everyone. Thanks again for everything. We appreciate everyone of you!
Wow! I just saw this. Can you ask here? You might also want to do a search for foster parent websites. There are a lot of them out there with lots of foster and adoptive parents who have tons of experience.
if you have any childrens books with lot's of bright pictures. i know when my son was that age and didn't feel good i used to read him his favorite books sometimes if they can get interested enough it can take their minds off of the pain sometimes. or sometimes they have those strobe light pictures that light up in the dark at her cribside to watch. any of those things might work to keep her little mind occupied. but first and foremost i would make sure a doctor checked her to make sure she doesn't have any internal injuries, if she was black and blue chances are she could have internal injuries.
I wasn't sure this was ok to post here cause this is a health board. Any how, Mom's parental rights are terminated now. Dad on the other hand has decided not to co-operate any more. He's refusing to sign anything. He won't admit to peternity because mom was 15 he was 21 at time of conception. Our attorney is putting in a petition to involuntary terminate his rights.
Here's the facts as I know them...
Father was charged with Unlawful sexual intercourse for another case. No charges have been filed for this one. He is currently incarserated on Felony Theft charges. He has no contact with this baby and refuses to support her. Untill now. Now he wants to take custody of her.
Based on this information what are the chances that the court would terminate?? I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that we may have to turn her over to him. The fact that he's got an extensive rap sheet for theft charges and the Sexual charges really worries me. She's been through so much already.
I am scared for her. I will be heartbroken if we lose her, but I am an adult. She on the other hand can't protect herself.
Do you know how long it takes to go through this? Or anywhere I can find similar case info at?
I have looked for adoption boards but didn't think to search for foster boards. I'll do that now.
On a happier note my baby is doing great.
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I am so glad to hear that TPR is set and it will be soon! I totally understand the nervousness. Court dates when our little one was still our foster child were the most stressful days of my life, even after going through a serious illness with and death of my dad. I know that feeling well and I know it is not pleasant. Now, on the 12th are they going to request TPR or have they actually set that up as the trial date? If they are going to request it on that date they will then have to set up a pre-trial and then a trial. If they are going to TPR the decision may be handed down that day, the trial may go on for a couple of days and be handed down then or the judge may hand his or her decision down several days to several weeks later. The waiting is so frustrating, but it does sound like in the end things will work out for you and the baby. You are in my prayers. Please let me know how things are going.
I love my fosterparents/adoption board. There is a lot of helpful advice and support there for these specific types of things.
This will be the first court date so I'm not sure. Baby is doing really well, She's so happy now. She's gaining weight and growing fast. I think she's catching up now that her nutritional needs are being met. She's talking up a storm and can name all her body parts. We play the " what does say game" and she can mimick several amimal now. What does the cow say? MOOOOOO. I was doing this with her one day and said what does Poppa say? (She calls my Dh Poppa) and she said Wuv YOU. It was so darn cute DH just cried. She's still very hyper but That we can deal with. We just keep her entertained by including her in Everything we do. Mom folds laundry baby unfold laundry. LOL
She loves story times. We also got her a night time glow worm that she just loves. She knows how to turn it on at night. She calls him bo-bo and makes sure that bo-bo is in her bed with her before she'll lay down. The music at night is a big part of her bedtime routine now. She gives everyone kisses then heads for the bedroom and says music. We turn it on and she sways back and forth for a minute then cuddles me for awhile before she lays down for the night. She still wakes up at night but it's a routine now. Alway around 12:30 and she just wants some formula.
I really want to start weaning her off the bottle but My heart tells me to wait a bit longer. We introduced her to sippy cups and at first she hated it but now she'll take it in place of a bottle during the day but at night she won't have anything to do with it. Giving what she's been through I think it's better to take that away slow.
She is very loved and has brought with her a spark to all our lives. I will keep you updated as to our progress with the TPR. Thanks for listening AGAIN!