Son abused in group home = broken ribs - Abuse Support Message Board

alabamagirl · 01-22-2007, 08:56 PM

M 24 year-old son with autism was abused in his group home and suffered eight broken ribs. He is now living at home (has been since before Christmas).

I never thought it would happen to my child. We are heartbroken, stressed, angry, and feeling very hopeless about the future. I don't know if I can ever trust anybody with him again.

He is non-verbal and the police and state agencies investigating don't hold much hope for finding the perpetrator. They have encouraged us to seek civil action. My son wasn't the only one abused in the home, but his injuries were the most severe.

Just venting tonight. Some days are harder than others. This past year has been a nightmare for him - long story. sigh.

Now we are dealing with a new psychiatrist who is weaning him off of some meds. and this has lead to behavior problems. I think I will make that another post because I have questions on the meds.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Debbie

BetsyAnn · 01-22-2007, 10:20 PM

I just wanted to welcome you to the boards and tell you I am so sorry. I can only imagine what you and your family must be going through. I am sorry I don't have any advice but I want you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you.

marissamm · 01-23-2007, 04:40 AM

I am so so sorry for what happened to your son, my son is 18 and will be moving into a supported living home next year,but he can talk and he is a big kid,let me tell you not all group homes are like that,but i would tell the other parents,and i would make sure that the licesure board knows about the abuse,i don't blame you for not trusting anyone it will take time for you all to heal, i will keep you in my prayers.

alabamagirl · 01-23-2007, 06:24 AM

Thank you BetsyAnn and Marissamo! All prayers are welcome.

He was having nightmares when he first came home but at least those have stopped. He has reverted back to bedwetting which we haven't seen in years.

Debbie

Kolby · 01-25-2007, 01:25 PM

Debbie,

I'm sure he is glad to be home with you. That should help the healing process along.

I do have a questions for you if you don't mind. Did your son's support from the school district change to the State providing support after he turned 18?
I'm curious about how that all works. I often hear parents say that their child doesn't receive anything once they turn 18.
Thanks
Michelle (Kolby's Mom)