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twoeyez · 02-07-2007, 06:09 AM

I will start our with some resent quotes from U&A (responaibilty is the name of the game) :

"It's hard for BP's to focus on the positives in life but being responsible for the disorder will allow them to address it in therapy.... Where there is a will there is a way as EYES has certainly showed us.
Personal responsibility and optimistism are traits any BP must master to have the stability so many of you deserve. It really applies to everyone in life and today many non-BP's even have a hard time mastering those traits but they are essential to a happy healthy life."

U&A goes on to say : "...... even us non-BP's have the normal up's and down's. It takes a true sense of personal responsibilty from the BP to see the behaviors and feelings are not normal and need serious attention. It also takes the same level of responsibility for people around them to confront the obvious and not enable over and over again. Nothing will change if everyone around just puts a blind eye.

Now, my thoughts as a emotionally stable BP for 23 years :

1) A BP has to "Ultimately be Responsible for their Actions at all times"
2) A Positive,Optimistic Additude is needed when stresses arise.
3) Know your "triggers" and confront them.
4) Stay away from Over Reaction.
5) Use 1)-4) with your spouse.Stop rage and whining.Take a deep Breath-fine your own space to keep control.
6) Knowledge,Learning are needed about BP. Accept it fully. Know that BP
is a Biochemical Imbalance Disorder.
7) A BP has to receive the proper Medications and always be Complient with them. When a BP "feels" better,this Not the time to discontinue their Meds.

OK, do you see any relationship with U&A's comments and My comments, even though I'm a BP and he's a Non-BP ?

Eyes
"Let's work the problem...."
Ed Harris (Apollo 13)

jgr01 · 02-07-2007, 06:19 AM

Hi Eyes,

well, i'm a bit confused (hahaha). I'm a medicated BP for about 7 yrs. What i seem to be reading is basically the same thing; although it can be difficult to accept or even recognise you have an illness for many years. I can get frustrated and so can my family, but we do all try and work together at it, with the help of regular psych appts. So, have I missed something, *** my brain is a bit slow at the moment, not all the dots are joining at all times if you know what i mean. Really damn frustrating when I used to be so capable.

Juliet

coffeegirl2 · 02-07-2007, 06:28 AM

Yes. Logic is applied to both theories.

Non-BP's, too, have their moments of ups and downs. My DH has his days of down time, and days of euphoria. He also has attended therapy with me to learn about the illness, and in conjunction, has received some theraputic help himself at the same time.

In the situation I'm in, it has worked. We have made it work. Only through lots of effort on both ends of the spectrum.

We, in our household, have two special needs children. It creates a different scenario to another level of degree. So, the BP illness of which I have, is secondary to what goes on in our household to their illness'. We have a lot to cope with in my home. Lots of therapy, medications, and quiettime to deal with on a daily basis. To keep my illness at bay as a parent, I'm in lots of therapy and visit the pdoc regularly, as well as meet with my DH regularly for support. It takes teamwork.

Well, that is all I have to say. Time to feed the fat cat before he eats my foot off!

Coffeegirl

twoeyez · 02-07-2007, 07:06 AM

[QUOTE=coffeegirl2;

Yes. Logic is applied to both theories.

Non-BP's, too, have their moments of ups and downs. My DH has his days of down time, and days of euphoria. He also has attended therapy with me to learn about the illness, and in conjunction, has received some theraputic help himself at the same time.

Coffeegirl : I would add your last comment to my list of 7).....

8).... lots of therapy and visit the pdoc regularly, as well as meet with my DH (spouse) regularly for support. It takes teamwork.

Eyes

teresa2007 · 02-07-2007, 07:58 AM

I guess that explains why i am a basket case and cant get control of this disorder. I need proper treatment and therapy so i can learn to deal with this correctly. Well im trying! Thanks for the info it was very helpful!
I whine too much and i need to take the bull by the horns and get with the program. Thanks for inspiring me! Ill shut up now! Tee