| | Re: I gave my husband herpes
This sounds awful for you both. I feel you both are causing yourselves great despair & mental anguish. I honestly can't imagine how or why, seeing as how this is the reality you both need to cope with, this hasn't been accepted. I think once you both can accept & forgive, you can find time to love & help each other instead of causing more harm. Showing concern for each other's well-being & looking for alternative medicines, medication, salves, etc, could be a good doorway to facing this together.
Secondly, the blaming and anger needs to stop. It won't solve anything, it doesn't make either of you better. You made a mistake. He made a choice. He chose you. He didn't choose the virus. He still has a choice. He can choose love & forgiveness. I think that takes more bravery than not dealing with the issue.
Lastly, stress and anxiety are triggers for outbreaks, am I correct? Not only that, simply stated, you both are at risk for more health problems created by stress alone. Try establishing a positive attitude, start small, like finding healthy things you can enjoy doing together like going for evening walks, cooking, researching alternatives, as I mentioned before. Face it together, already. It can't be undone.... but, your minds sure can be.
~lots of love and peace ~
Last edited by Ohura36; 04-16-2012 at 08:58 AM.
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