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swt567 09-02-2012 12:07 PM

Is this abuse?
 
I have been horribly abused in a previous relationship. So bad that I suffered P.T.S.D. after I got away. Yesterday my current boyfriend and I got into an awful argument yesterday. We have had them a lot lately. Yesterday he got so mad he shoved me hard. So hard I fell down. He says this is not abuse bc I did not have any black and blue marks nor was I bleeding. He says my ex did way worse to me so I shouldn't complain about being shoved. I say it is abuse either way. Who is right? I want to add that when he is mad he brings up private things I tell him and uses against me and talks horrible to me. I am very clear on the verbal abuse. That he denies as well.

Phoenix 09-12-2012 03:11 AM

Re: Is this abuse?
 
swt567

Your boyfriend probably isn't aware of the exact nature of PTSD.
Any unwanted physically aggressive contact can trigger your symptoms.
Please be careful,as he seems to be justifying his actions.

Respectfully
Phoenix

renko 09-12-2012 10:38 AM

Re: Is this abuse?
 
If a man pushed me in anger, I would leave him and wouldn't take it. That is a serious red flag and since you have been in an abusive relationship before you know what you feel and don't allow this boyfriend to make excuses. You need support from good friends and family and please don't excuse this guy's behavior. He may need anger management and you need to be assertive and stand up for yourself. Best wishes.

elizabeth62 09-13-2012 08:13 AM

Re: Is this abuse?
 
He sounds like a creep. And yeah, shoving is most definitely abuse. It's also illegal and you could press charges.

AverageUser 09-22-2012 01:45 PM

Re: Is this abuse?
 
Yes, it is abuse. If you did it to someone smaller than you, would you consider it abuse? You are not responsible for his actions or words, any more than he is responsible for yours. Are you afraid to leave him?

EK1977 10-25-2012 11:55 PM

Re: Is this abuse?
 
An old boyfriend did that to me and I didn't think it was abuse at the time because he only pushed me, he hadn't hit me. After I finally left him I looked back and realized that it was definitely abuse! It is hard to see situations for what they really are when we are in them. I hope you see that you don't have to put up with that kind of treatment from anyone.


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