Re: Could the past be starting to effect my life?
I know exactly what you are going through. My step grandfather was abusive (sexually) to me when I was a little girl, and as bad as it sounds I was exstatic when he passed away when I was 9. What he would do is he would have us girls sit on his lap while he was driving and let us steer his truck when we were driving around town, and then he would inappropriately touch us with his fingers. I have issues where at the beginning of my marriage we have sex all the time, but it usually only lasts for about 3 or 4 months, and then I just stop wanting sex. I've been married a couple of times, and as much as I would love to have children I can't seem to get past the whole not wanting to have sex thing. I think this is caused from repressed emotions of what my step father did to me as a small child. I've tried to go to counseling but it doesn't seem to help and so I stop going.
I think I will have to agree with Phoenix, you and your sister both really should go and talk to a counselor, or maybe even a pastor.
I know that if my Mom where to marry the man who molested me as a child I would sever all ties with her. It sounds harsh, but she seems to be ignoring your claims of abuse, and will continue to do so until she gets a reality check. Unfortunately you have to burn several bridges to be heard sometimes.