Re: Could the past be starting to effect my life?
Hello Ingy and welcome.
Has your anger begun to manifest itself once you offered to become a bridesmaid?
This is a complex situation and only you can answer this question:"had you resolved the abuse in your mind previously or just suppressed it?"
Carrying this for as long as you have,if left unresolved,has the potential to result in outbursts,etc.
It also makes me wonder how your sister is dealing with this.
While it is admirable to want to be there for your mother,the conflict lies with both her(for choosing him to marry) and her fiancee(abuser).
I don't know if participating in the ceremony would be in the best interests of either you or your sister.
Would either of you be opposed to seeing a therapist before doing something that may further effect your quality of living,while inadvertently effecting your husband and children?
Please consider the offer;I implore you.
When in doubt, post it out.