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Old 02-01-2003, 05:51 PM   #1
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Unhappy Upset about what my GF said about my face....

Ok... I went to the movies with her & everything was great and we usually tease each other and everything and she made a comment about my acne.I said something smart to her in a playful way and then she said something like "Look at your face"!She smiled and said she was just kidding and I didn't argue with her or anything... it just kinda bothered me because I feel like she was telling the truth when she said that.Then earlier today... I went to the dentist and I thought my skin has been looking pretty good and the scars are almost faded.When the dentist gave me a mirror to see how good my teeth looked.... I couldn't help but look at all the scars on my face and how worse they actually look.It just don't seem like it was one of my days... what my GF said and what I saw at the doctors office got me a little down.I was just starting to feel great about myself.I got this nasty dot looking scar on my nose and it is so ugly... I really want to just color it in or something because it makes me look weird.

 
Old 02-01-2003, 06:32 PM   #2
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Maybe your girlfriend meant to joke about your whole face in general, then only realized later that it could have sounded bad when it seemed like she was referring to your skin. It could be that since skin might not be an issue for her personally, it might not be on her mind as much, and she would not realize how bad it might make you feel. We are all probably hyper-sensitive about our skin, but it is only because it is something that we are self-concious about. I know we've all been in situations in which we've put our foot in our mouths for saying something that we realize only later we wish we could have taken back. I'd guess that she really didn't mean anything malicious by it.

About the dentist...have you ever seen how bright that light is that they shine over your head?? That thing is brighter than a thousand suns, man! It probably made your scars appear much, much more apparent than they usually would, in normal light. Hope this helps you, a little bit!


 
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Old 02-01-2003, 06:45 PM   #3
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Thanx so much!!! Lol... the strange thing is I am my own worst enemy... I still have girlfriends every now and then and no one seems bothered by my skin... There have been people who say I that I am a very handsome young man but I don't want to believe it.Everytime I look at a mirror... it makes me feel uncomfortable because I realise how I look.I started getting acne when I was in the 5th grade... now 5 years later I am in the 10th... I forgot how I even looked in the mirror when I had clear skin... it's been so long ago.Most of my teen years have been pretty rocky.When I hear people crack jokes about my skin... it really really hurts and it gets me even more obssessed with trying to make it better and worrying about it.After all the years my face is like blotched and damaged from the past acne creeping on constantly and constantly... it's been in the same areas for years.The thing about my acne is like... it will have a month where everything will be fine.. then the next months they come on strong with pimples and I have to start over again and again! I am tired and exhausted of feeling this way & I feel my self esteem declining more and more as each year progress.My dad had acne when he was young too looking at past photos but now he has the clearest skin.I want to enjoy my teen years feeling confident but I don't want it to clear when I am just turning and adult and all the fun of being a teen is gone!

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Old 02-01-2003, 10:27 PM   #4
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TimDream, I just wanted to say that that was probably the best piece of advice I have ever heard from someone on a message board - any message board.

And to the original poster of this message, I know what you're going through. I get VERY upset when people make comments about my face. It doesn't happen much, but when it does, those times really stay with me, and it has a huge impact on my life. You're not alone.

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Old 02-02-2003, 05:37 AM   #5
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I can empathise with you guys. I used to get loads of compliments when I was clear and stuff.. and back then there were actually girls who were interested in me. I've broken out since and everything's gone downhill... I'm so sad about everything. I spent the whole of today thinking on and on about my zits and what I can do about them. I was really so so sad..... My girlfriend's friend saw me in a photo we took and said "this guy needs a facial!" Sigh, I really died when I heard it. and its when u hear such things that no matter how much pple try to talk you out of it, it just hurts more and more. Sigh.... I really miss the days of having clear skin.

 
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