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Old 12-12-2003, 05:44 PM   #1
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I just wanted to mention that I am new here. I was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago. I decided to talk yo my Dr. after reading an article in a magazine about ADHD.
All my life I have been struggeling with myself. I could never understand how other people could accomplish so much and I was struggeling just to keep my house clean. I had a very difficult time in school and dropped out of college. I'm 31 now and back in school with a husband and a 2yr old. For so long I blamed myself for being lazy. The sad part is that when I told my father (who raised me) that I had this his response was "I know". Well if he knew then why didn't he tell me all those years when I would tell him I wish I knew why I was the way I was, why couldn't I succede in anything. Comming from a family of very high achievers and succesful people I was, well, not...
Well now I know and knowing is half the battle

Oh by the way my fathers answer to why he never told me was that he was afraid that the drugs would make a drug addict. The funny thing is that I am a recovering addict 5 yrs sober with no AA no NA and no counceling all on my own...

 
Old 12-12-2003, 06:03 PM   #2
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Welcome, Irene! And congratulations on being sober!

 
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Old 12-12-2003, 08:47 PM   #3
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Hey Irene. Congrats on the sober time!!!

(sounds like you are very proud to be staying sober without any help, please remember theres no shame in getting help, for many people it enhances their recovery)



Its too bad your father didnt know back then, that there are effective treatments for ADHD other than medications. Remember he was only doing the best with what he knew...
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Old 12-12-2003, 08:53 PM   #4
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Originally Posted by ireneb96
I just wanted to mention that I am new here. I was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago. I decided to talk yo my Dr. after reading an article in a magazine about ADHD.
All my life I have been struggeling with myself. I could never understand how other people could accomplish so much and I was struggeling just to keep my house clean. I had a very difficult time in school and dropped out of college. I'm 31 now and back in school with a husband and a 2yr old. For so long I blamed myself for being lazy. The sad part is that when I told my father (who raised me) that I had this his response was "I know". Well if he knew then why didn't he tell me all those years when I would tell him I wish I knew why I was the way I was, why couldn't I succede in anything. Comming from a family of very high achievers and succesful people I was, well, not...
Well now I know and knowing is half the battle

Oh by the way my fathers answer to why he never told me was that he was afraid that the drugs would make a drug addict. The funny thing is that I am a recovering addict 5 yrs sober with no AA no NA and no counceling all on my own...
First of all, ADHD was not something anyone really new about when we were kids (i am 31 also) my brother born in the 80s, has similar situation, ADD was just becoming a known thing, yet people were reluctant to treat it or didn't know how. My mother did not want him on meds, ritalin had been suggested for him . she did not want him labeled. He self medicated starting at age 13 with drugs and alcohol. He still struggles to this day trying to find his place in life.

ADHD is a fairly new diagnosis, and my question is of course, why? Has it always been around and never recognized? Is it a result of modern influences of our society? Much more research needs to be done.
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Old 12-12-2003, 09:31 PM   #5
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First of all, ADHD was not something anyone really new about when we were kids (i am 31 also) my brother born in the 80s, has similar situation, ADD was just becoming a known thing, yet people were reluctant to treat it or didn't know how. My mother did not want him on meds, ritalin had been suggested for him . she did not want him labeled. He self medicated starting at age 13 with drugs and alcohol. He still struggles to this day trying to find his place in life.

ADHD is a fairly new diagnosis, and my question is of course, why? Has it always been around and never recognized? Is it a result of modern influences of our society? Much more research needs to be done.
ADHD is not a new diagnosis by any means!!! It has just had many different names, including minimal brain damage. In the present day ADHD is WAY overdiagnosed, people with different learning types, personality styles, and even people who have physical or psychological issues that have some of the same symptoms usually just get diagnosed with ADHD rather than the doctors finding their real problem.

People are also becoming more aware of mental health (for children and adults) in this day and age. This is why you hear so much more about ADHD than you did in the past, but the issue has been around for many years. In history books many of our greatest inventors are described in ways that have others coming to the conclusion that they may have been ADHD, Thomas Edison is just one of them.
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Old 12-13-2003, 04:40 PM   #6
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[QUOTE]First of all, ADHD was not something anyone really new about when we were kids

My father did know what I had as a child he was informed and I did take lots of tests (he never told me at that time why). We may not have called it ADD but
he did lots of research and was well informed.
My difficulty is that he never offered this information to me as an adult. I confided in him often about my struggels and his
response was that I needed to "keep my nose to the grind stone , concentrate more and stay focused" telling someone with add
to stay focused is like telling a toddler to sit still for an hour.
Im not mad at him I do understand his reasons but I can't help but wonder how different things would be for me if he had told me
befor now..

 
Old 12-14-2003, 07:02 PM   #7
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My daughter was discouraged and depressed and very hard on herself for her lack of self-control prior to taking ritalin at 10 yrs of age. When my daughter experienced her dramatic response to ritalin, it enabled her to understand that there was a neurological reason for her difficulties. This realization greatly increased her self-esteem and greatly decreased her self-blame.

I was not diagnosed until I was in my 40s. I had great difficulties with school - particularly elementary school. It would have helped me to know that there was a reason for my difficulties and a reason that all my efforts to compensate were insufficient.

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Old 12-15-2003, 06:51 AM   #8
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As an adult who was diagnosed with ADD in his 40s, I can empathize with what you're experiencing. There is no question that my becoming open to the reality of ADD as a contemporary diagnosis, and my acceptance of it within myself, allowed me to seek help. For me, that came through Strattera. For others, there may be other solutions. Regardless, there is little question that those of us who have ADD fit a set of diagnostic criteria. It's real - it's also just an explanation - not an excuse. Find out what works for you. Don't worry what others think. Don't worry whether or not you're one of the over-diagnosed or over-prescribed. If you have been diagnosed with a degree of dertainly that you feel comfortable, seek treatment. In the best case situations it is literally life changing!
Congatulations on your sobriety! You've already demonstrated the strength and perseverence to find a better, healthier path!

 
Old 12-31-2003, 07:04 PM   #9
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what are some of the ways that you can help your husband to understand what you have to work with and how that is different from his perspective on life? the only thing that my husband and I ever fight about is the house and how it is never really clean and organized...

 
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