I have never been truly diagnosed with ADD, but have been displaying symptoms since I was young. I noticed that in my relationships with men in the past (already divorced) have been problems with the mood swings, anger and the constant boredom with that person. I have never taken any type of medications for ADD. Except I have had problems with Vicodin in the past. Can anyone tell me if they have these experiences?
I also have problems with getting bored if I'm in a steady relationship with a guy. Not that I don't like the person really.. I just get so bored of that person that I want to spend less and less time with them, until I just can't stand seeing them at all.
I think that a lot of women with ADD/ADHD can identify with the problems you describe. You may want to think about buying a workbook, ADD and relationships. It's a self help book to help people with ADD work out some issues that effect their relationships.
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I also have problems with getting bored if I'm in a steady relationship with a guy. Not that I don't like the person really.. I just get so bored of that person that I want to spend less and less time with them, until I just can't stand seeing them at all.
I think that a lot of women with ADD/ADHD can identify with the problems you describe. You may want to think about buying a workbook, ADD and relationships. It's a self help book to help people with ADD work out some issues that effect their relationships.
I think I was looking for men to "complete" me as a person, rather than looking inside to deal with my own issues. I would hesitate to use the word 'boredom' for my cases. But in any case, I can relate!
i'm a man but i wanted to say the book that FS recommended was really eye-opening to me. not a big fan of 'self-help' books, but this one was pretty amazing as far as making me aware of common ADD relationship dynamics. i'd definitely recommend taking a look at it.
I definatly feel for and can relate to your prediciment... I am a male and only 20 but in all the relationships i've been in, serious and not.. I've come across the exact same problems as you have.. At first I am enthralled with the person but after awhile, no matter how much I care for them, I just get bored.. I've tried explaining this to so many people, but it seems inconcievable, to those without ADD, to get bored of a person, especially one whom with you are emotionally involved with... What i've found has helped the most is changing up what you do, or in what light you think of your partner....
That said, alot of times I feel I will be alone in life, for I look around me and see most of my friends in long-term relationships, yet I find myself going to different woman after a predicable amount of time...
--Andrew Jackson
