Dating someone with ADD - ADD / ADHD Message Board

enki · 02-24-2004, 03:10 PM

I have ocd but I can manage it well. This relationship I have been in for five years, best I've ever had. But the traditional habits that people with add have, like ending relationships prematurely plagues her/us. we always get back together (thank god) but is very tough on me. She also likes to drink which can bring out a monster in an other wise very sweet girl. Has anyone else had to deal with this type of situation in the past or currently? Any advice or tips? She was also told she has bad spacial reasoning if this helps any. Thanks guys.

Redhead23 · 02-25-2004, 06:12 AM

Is she getting any treatment for her condition? This makes a huge difference with regards to the prospects this relationship may or may not have.

enki · 02-25-2004, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Redhead23

Is she getting any treatment for her condition? This makes a huge difference with regards to the prospects this relationship may or may not have.

No but I am thinking about it. I dont believe in taking drugs to mask a problem, I have seen my friends try that and it just leads to new problems down the road. I want her to see a therapist, but she wont go for it. I guess she needs to be willing to make changes on her own. Any other suggestions?

brainf0g · 02-25-2004, 02:21 PM

If you don't believe in "taking drugs to mask a problem", then get her to stop "masking" her problem with drinking.

enki · 02-25-2004, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by brainf0g

If you don't believe in "taking drugs to mask a problem", then get her to stop "masking" her problem with drinking.

Yes very true my friend. Drinking brings out her alter ego, or maybe her true self? Her father is the same way. She only drinks on weekend but it causes problems to last the rest of the week! Yeah its a tough situation. Thanks for the advice though guys. Great forum here! Feel free to reply with advice, I wont get offended.