jinglebts

yes, but we didn't know that, and for him, they increased over time and with stress ... he's very unlikely to do any research on anything he might have, and i'm even wondering if he gives our GP the right symptoms (ie, he might say, "i have a headache", which he may at the moment, and he really means, "i'm depressed") ... he's not at all good at "the big picture", and he's poor at planning, for example (in corporate reviews, whatever company he works for always criticizes his planning skills and it's always been a reason he's not advanced as far as he should)...

anyway, a couple of years ago, i figured out he had it by looking at one of those ADD questionaires, and then i read more and more, bought a couple of books, and the light went on for both of us ... then he went to our GP and described his symptoms, also his counsellor and our pharmacologist, they all agreed that he had it (there was a psychologist whom he'd been recommended to who charged $1200 just to see if he had it, and then would treat it, so we said, "uhhh, no thanks") ...

he has a lot of other problems: depression, guilt, dad-issues (he had a horrible upbringing), so we're not there yet ... in fact, we had our second argument in as many days because he's rude and mean (verbally) and the more the years pass, the worse it gets ... he always had ADD, but the rudeness/meaness/depression weren't there so much, until i had a stroke 8 years ago and now have thyroid disease and so the stress has increased for my husband, a lot ...

yes, i know dexedrine is speed and carries some risks, but our marriage was breaking up and his self-esteem was at an all-time low (did i tell you he'd lost his job??) ... and he's also taking wellbutrin and effexor ...

his main problem is that he thinks a pill will fix it, and it won't: he has to do some work on his own and, from past experience, i doubt he'll do that ...

it's no picnic for either of us ...

jb

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