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Old 06-18-2004, 09:25 AM   #1
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Parents opposed to treating ADD

I've seen this alot and my folks are culprits of this too. Why do parents shrug off ADD so much. My folks don't believe that I should go to the dr. to see if I have this. They think that I'm being stupid for even thinking I may have it. Many other parents are the same way. I mean, if I had cancer I'm sure they would want me to be treated. Why is this?

 
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Old 06-18-2004, 11:39 AM   #2
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Re: Parents opposed to treating ADD

I was in a similar situation myself. My mom didnt want me to be "labeled" adhd because she was afraid that all of my hard work in HS would be useless and i wouldnt get into my dream school because of it, and she was worried that future employers wouldnt want to hire/ promote me because of it. She's a psychiatric nurse and she doesnt want me to be taking stimulants. My dads cool with it but, then again, he has adhd so he knows what i go through.

Some parents dont believe that its real or dont WANT you to have it because then they know that he/she gave it to you. I dont know how old you are but if you're over 18 and you feel strongly enough just go and get tested. If you're "too young", then explain to your parents why you're so adimint(sp) about it and go from there. That's what i did and it worked for me.

 
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Re: Parents opposed to treating ADD

Once again msmars your information is wrong and I also feel the need to reiterate the fact that you are obsessed with add and probably suffering from ocd and hypochondria.

Children of people who have disease do NOT automatically inherit those diseases. In fact, most genetic defects or diseases “skip a generation”. My mother had vonRecklinghausen syndrome, RSD and bone cancer, diseases which carry a 50%-75% inheritance rate, and died at age 40. I or my sister did not develop any of these syndromes. I have developed totally unrelated ailments myself, and my sister has remained extremely healthy and fit. 90% of the time your own body produces disease or problems with the body in response to its own chemistry, what you put in it, your environmental surroundings and yes, some if it is genetic. Just because one or both of your parents have ADD does NOT automatically mean they will pass it to the child. There are some situations that this are true, and some diseases require both parents to carry the disease dormant and pass it to a child. This is where your thinking is obviously confused. You seem to strongly believe you have ADD automatically because a parent does.

Here is a warning: You do NOT want to have ADD. You really need to get over it. A life full of psychiatric illness and pill-popping should not be what you want. By your posts I see that this is what you want. You want to experiment with drugs. I have said before you have an obvious drug-seeking pattern about you. When you start taking a pill to wake up your mind, you will soon also start taking a pill to put your mind at rest in the night time. Children and young adults abusing (in your case strongly seeking) stimulants will usually lead a life of substance and alcohol abuse. Listen to your mother. At your age, having ADD should not even be considered. According to the dsm-iv, if you do not show signs of attention deficiency and hyperactivity by the age of 7 then a diagnosis of ADD is not possible except under very extreme circumstances, one of them not being hypochondria.

You parents are trying to protect you. And they have every right to be concerned. As a psychiatric nurse, your mother knows first hand what kind of behavior is associated with ADD and what years of taking psychoactive drugs and stimulants do to your body. She has seen first hand medicines like amphetamines; Ritalin and Concerta turn ordinary people with some type of childhood attention deficiency turn to drug dealing, prostitution, robbery and other forms of violent crimes to support a crank, crack, or ice addiction which started when a parent decided to give the kid Crank instead of taking it to the movies. No parent wants to see this happen to their child as a direct result of putting them on medicine. These are the cold, hard facts sister.

Take some Wellbutrin and get over yourself.

 
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Re: Parents opposed to treating ADD

Bearboy,
It seems you're doing 'tough love' and that's noble and perhaps courageous, but I think (a) it's polarizing and (b) the 'truth' is somewhere in the middle. Please heed your own advice and "see" that; I'm sure that if and when you do, you will ease up and yourself be more flexible in your position as regards the 'middle', or a more balanced perspective and approach in this case. Peace.

 
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Re: Parents opposed to treating ADD

Ok bearboy, im going to explain this to you one more time. 1) I never said that because my dad had adhd, i have it!
2) adhd DOES tend to run in families and that means that more often then not, somewhere along the family tree someone most likely has it. Thus, your parents gave you the genes because it is somewhat genetic. I'm sorry about your mom but that doenst mean that you can ridicule me about things. All i was saying is that parents dont want to give their kids a problem and if their kid is diagnosed with something of this nature then they MAY feel like its their fault.
3) I DO NOT want to have add, who would. Why would i want to have something that is going to make people discriminate agianst me, think that im dumb, cause me trouble for my entire life, and cost me time money and a chance at living a completely "normal" life? I'm not stupid so dont treat me like i am. I'm 16 years old, not 6.
4) Why are you only focusing on me when there are numerous other people on here that take medication and ask questions about the whole testing process? I just wanted to be knowledgeable about what was going on.
5) I had the symptoms when i was younger, its just that im female and it takes longer usually for girls to be diagnosed and it usually takes longer for "gifted" kids to be dianosed because they dont have the "usual" problems
6) You dont know me and have no right to automatically assume things about me when you sure as [mess] dont know me or anything about me.

Why are you telling me to take some wellbutrin when you are basically saying that i shouldnt be taking any medication at all??? That sounds kinda shady, if you ask me. But then again, why would you ask me anything, all you want to do is preach to me about how much of a horrible, drug abusing, future alcoholic, stupid, worthless excuse for a human being that i am. Why dont you answer the persons question, instead of yelling at me, if you have such a problem with what i said, or do you just feel like be angry all of the time instead of trying to be helpful?

 
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